Is Being a ‘Girl’s Girl’ Overrated?
Have you ever been personally victimized by a woman who acted under the guise as your friend and supporter, but really was a sheep in wolves clothing?
And How Many People Were Scared?
It’s very scary, when you show up genuinely and you’re not met with the same energy from women.
So, the answer is Yes.
Being a ‘Girl’s Girl’ is OVERRATED.
It’s something sort of an illusion.
Girlhood is supposed to be love, rainbows, sleepovers, shopping, therapy, a little gossip, empowerment, food dates, Beyonce, celebrations, matcha lattes, jokes, loyalty, makeup, and lemon drops right?
Wrong.
B*tches be weird and it has nothing to do with you.
Unless you’re in fact, the weird b*tch.
It’s safe to say, the green grass backgrounds can’t and ain’t saving some of these women’s character.
See, women have been conditioned to size each other up when it comes to beauty, access, appeal, materials, and the worst one MEN.
Comparing themselves at an incessant rate.
Relax.
There is a clear difference in a true ‘girls girl’ vs an insecure girl who feels like she isn’t enough so she projects that onto other women.
And it will always show.
Women can be the main ones tearing each other down, finding any and everything to criticize other women about.
Because why did Oprah have to go behind Mo’nique’s back like that?
And what really happened between Lil Kim and Nicki Minaj?
Why Naomi chew Tyra and say "You’ll never be me. Don’t think you can be me”?
And Tae Heckard really didn’t have to do Teyana Taylor like that.
There are a lot of insecure women at different levels. And trust, being beautiful, smart, or successful does not absolve a woman of insecurities.
Because (true) confidence is internal. It does not look to compare or seek validation.
Nothing external or material can make up for some of the insecurities women carry.
Being a woman is already taxing.
We have to cook, clean, and wash everything.
We have to be everything at once. Beautiful, endearing, educated, nurturers, providers..
And expected to be nice on top of all things.
But it seems as though when a woman knows who she is and possesses some or most of these qualities, other women are either motivated or intimidated.
Which one are you?
The audience wants to know.
Most insecure women carry the same traits:
Competitive Spirit
Monitoring Spirit
Jealousy Spirit
People Pleasing/Clingy Spirit
The Spirit of Low Self-Worth/Low Self - Esteem
Superficial Spirit
All of these are symptoms of an insecure woman and her OWN unmet needs.
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Any woman who operates as though she is inferior or superior to any other woman struggles with a bruised ego.
We all have insecurities because nobody is perfect, the issue comes into play when women decide to project theirs onto other women.
Let’s be real, women be projecting because they either feel a void in their own relationships, careers, beauty and most importantly themselves.
We’re Supposed to Be a Sisterhood….
And this isn’t feeling like a sisterhood right now.
We have women who compete with you in their head.
We have women who will leave you on the side of the road for a crumb of penis.
We have women in the workplace who will sabotage you for a financial gain.
We have women who will hate you forever and a day over a man.
We have women who don’t listen to their friends.
We have women who want to shit on you and not help you.
We have women who want to be you.
And after everything is said and done…
But is it women’s fault?
Unrealistic beauty standards, social media amplification, lack of representation, scarcity mindsets, and male validation are the root causes why of women feel insecure by other women.
Ladies, if they can do it….
WE CAN TOO.
Repeat with me: THERE IS ENOUGH.
There are enough opportunities, unique personalities, endless beauty, and tons and tons of men.
Take some time to see if you are operating from a scarcity or competitive frequency and recognize your own worth.
We can never forgive Yolanda for what she did to Selena or for Cassie wanting to be Maddy.
But what we can do is start being genuine people and carry ourselves with integrity.
Girlhood and friendship are not synonymous. Nobody is saying these btches have to be your bestie.
But we are saying….
Tell me when I have tissue on my heel or that my man ain’t shit.
Give women grace.
Give women their credit, because as women we know how hard society is to us.
True girlhood does exist, but it’s created out of love, support, intention, admiration, growth, grace, compassion, and safety.
Cultivate that safe space for yourself to flourish in the RIGHT friendships.
There's no better feeling than sharing space with your homegirls.
And with that,
“What I realized in this moment is that calling someone else ugly won’t make you prettier, calling someone stupid won’t make you smarter… and ruining Regina George’s life definitely didn’t make me happier.”
As a woman, be a real btch.
I love us fr.
